When I look back over my life, it seems that I have been thrown out of every spiritual group I ever became involved in. Can I be such a horrible person that no one wants me around or that I just have no ability for spiritual pursuits?
When we dig deep into the historic record, women have been deemed spiritually inept from the dawn of time. The teachings of Taoist masters back 5000 years tell students never to allow a woman to become a student. Women are incapable of spiritual practice and so the society of the time deemed women to be inferior human beings.
The Buddha refused to allow women as monks. It wasn’t until his aged Aunt begged to be admitted that the Buddha relented. There was a condition that had to be met for women to be admitted. Nuns must renounce marriage and family or be in a position where they no longer had family responsibilities, which meant that the husband must be dead or willing to release the woman from her householder duties and all their children were grown and settled.
The story of Adam and Eve tells us that within a day of eating the forbidden fruit, they were kicked out of Eden. Cherubim and a revolving flaming sword barred the way. Yet in Genesis 3:22, the Lord states that man is like Him and is able to stretch out his hand and take from the tree of life and live forever. No so for Eve. Hmmmm.
How can the instances of male dominance be so wide spread over such a vast variety of cultures and eras? How is it that women are downgraded to spiritually inept or outright sub-human in so many cultures?
It all comes back to the ego or lack there of.
We know that spirituality was a male dominated enterprise from the beginnings of written literature. The story of Gilgamesh, the first known myth, is a fully-fledged alchemy of the archetypical king. That means that the study of male transformation had been going on looong before writing was available. Lets remember that a king is an animus or ego-based personality. Writing, reading, and philosophical study require the focus of a logical, intellectual, one track style of mind.
This is not the environment of any woman with children. There’s Susie who is pouring too much salt into the stew, Rodger who is sword whacking all the furniture, while little Tony is pooping on the floor. And, that is on a good day. It takes a creative mind to absorb and juggle all the happenings. In each case, bringing forth the best outcome is key; rescue dinner, instill a since of right and wrong use of weapons, teach proper hygiene skills. Who has time to talk and debate about the inner being when all this is going on?
It is the assumption that everyone operated from the ego or strong sense of “I” that brings about the historical idea that women are sub-human.
The animus or ego-based personality is narrowly focused on the “I.”
Animus or ego-based spiritual practices are all about dissolving or killing ego.
Anima or egoless-based spiritual practices are all about self-realization, narrowing the parameters, and finding the “I Am.”
Animus or ego-based groups communicate from a totally different perspective than egoless-based groups. Animus or ego-based groups use “the cattle call” in order to attract people to their cause. An example is when the speaker talks about a conference they are hosting or going to attend.
- Animus or ego-based personalities, since they associate everything with themselves, will ask to join the conference or ask where to sign up.
- An anima or egoless-based personality will wish you well or walk away feeling rejected because they had not been invited. Because they have no since of “I,” and egoless-based personality does not relate the general announcement/subtle invitation to themselves. Thus, they miss the intention of the “cattle call.”
Egoless-based groups actively recruit in order to attract people to their cause. They know no one will step up to a public announcement because those in their group do not relate what is said by others to themselves. Egoless-based types juggle so many other activities or events that they are not looking to add to the pile of responsibilities that they already handle.
- An anima or egoless-based personality needs to be recruited in such a manner that tells them they have an ability that they alone can positively contribute to the group, that they are needed, and that they are wanted. An anima or egoless-based personality needs to be emotionally attached to the group or the benefits that they can provide to others. When the benefit is only to the self, generally they are not interested.
- Practices that use one-on-one requests or recruiting leave an animus or ego-based personality feeling a loss of freedom or personal choice.
- Practices that kill ego, kills both the connection to the group and the hard earned self-confidence within an anima or egoless-based personality.
- This leads to feelings of being thrown out and the insanity of a shattered psyche.
Here is the reason why I felt as if I had been thrown out of every spiritual group I became involved with and I missed every opportunity when it knocked . . .
“I” wasn’t home.